Genting trip PLUS KL now….

Haha. Ah ber jus booked the Boulevard Hotel in KL. We are going to genting, then to KL for shopping…. YEAH… We are extending our stay till mon…. YEAH. 3 whole days with my good friend and my darling.

Guess Lena and Alex gonna bunk in with me and kenji at eunos on fri nite…. cos we kiasu – scared cannot wake up… especially kenji…. if cannot wake him up with phone calls its really gonna be a pain cos he’s the driver…. hahahaha…..so no excuse, the 3 of us gonna pounce on you darling to wake you up on sat morn…..

The plan will be to drive up from sg to m’sia on sat in the wee hours of the morn…. tat means must wake up at 2am to prepare the trip ah….. ai yo….. ms piggy ber dunno will wake up or not cos 2am is the time I normally sleep at nite….. hahahahhaa…… YEAH YEAH YEAH…..

Tonite I going to giant with ms lena to get neccesities for the trip hahahhahaa….. uncle kenji told her not to bring too much luggage….. i think end up I will be the one with the most luggage….. hahahahha…..

Sooooooooooooooo excited….. Cos I going up the hill to meet Ms kerin mei too….. YEAH…. We can enjoy the cool breeze together…… Kerin mei, you extend the nite with us in our room, then sun you go with us to KL, take bus back from there…… we can still go shopping together at KL woooooooo hoooooo……

Holiday

I’m on the top of the world. No, he hasn’t proposed, No, brandy isn’t pregnant, but YES, I’m going on a REAL holiday next week.

I dunno why I am so excited. Its jus genting. But its the company that I am going with that is making me excited. Kenji’s gonna drive up together with his cousin Alex and my good friend Lena. YEAH. And we are meeting Kerin mei on the top of the hill….. YEAH….

So cool. So excited. Actually I wanted to give Kerin mei a surprise by appearing at genting. But I scared I kena surprised in the end when things cock up… YEAH…. Casinos – HERE AH BER COME……

Although we are leaving next weekend, I am soooooooooooooo excited that I am going to start packing my clothes now…… hahahahaha….. and now gotta make some plans for junior. Is he going to stay at home or bradel or go to yishun to continue humping brandy? The last one sounds good rite?

And I am going to bring my portable DVD player to watch movies on the run…… YEAH… Thank God for technology and innovation….. I gonna bring lotsa things. I gonna bring my travelling pig, my comforter, my DVD player, myself…. heehee…..

High high into the sky……

Darling can we go KL on sun? I wanna shop….. And we gonna watch TRANSFORMERS there….. YEAH YEAH YEAH YEAH…… can i smuggle junior there? Better not – he will freeze to death. hahahahaha…… but i will miss my baby boy…..hmmmm….. but its ok, i have his daddy with me…… 🙂

Rants and FOOD

I dun understand why junior cannot find the hole. I dun understand why junior’s little brother cannot find Brandy’s little sister….

Junior’s getting so fed-up, he gotta hump the toy dog. And brandy got so fed up, she jus sit on the floor whenever he tried to hump her. Think my baby boy’s still a baby la. He doesnt know bout humping and stuff. Sigh…. daddy pls teach him can or not?

Been feeling better, but still like so busy, still like so tired…. sian….

Met up with kenji for supper after work. Had my fav sausage and egg and he had his fish and chips….. tok about western food….

Mon me and lena and jie fu went to serangoon gdns to have western food – the famous Aston western food….. YEAH. This one is located in a coffeshop along Maju Ave – opposite another coffeeshop and near to coffee bean…. I would give this 9 stars out of 10 stars for a coffeeshop western food joint. Ambience is ok – coffeeshop but situated in serangoon gdns so the atmosphere is different. Service is fantastic – polite and enthusiastic servers. Nice smiles too and very warm feeling….. Food is FABULOUS….. I jus love it….

Jie fu is so damn predictable lor…. lena is like a worm in his stomach – know what he wan to eat lor….. lena was saying jie fu will either wan chicken chop or chicken cutlet. And we gave him many choices from fish to beef to chicken to pork. And he really choose chicken chop. Hahahahahhaa…. but alas their menu more sophisticated, only high-class names and use high-class sauce so no chicken chop.

In the end, lena ordered 2 different types of chicken for him. Jie fu, you must appreciate my sister ok. She really not bad to you one hor…..although sometimes she is difficult la, but she is still very lovable ok…..

And lena had her steak which was sooooooooooooooooooo damn nice – juicy and tender. WOW. And as usual, ah ber had her ribs la….. the BBQ sauce like FOC. And I love it….. cheap and the portion is jus nice – not too big and not too small…… I love baked potatoes too…. and had coleslaw…. Yummy…..

LENA’S STEAK….Hmmmmm

MY HONEY BOURBON RIBS….. YEAH YEAH YEAH YEAH

We also had soup of the day – mushroom soup and Ms Kerin you must try cos this soup is better than the Marche soup we had last week….. this one is really yummy…. plus 2 slices of garlic bread leh…… total cost only $43 for everything…..

SOUP OF THE DAY – MUSHROOM SOUP…

After dinner, we went to Ice Cube (or Ice box???) for desserts. Its jus down the corner along kensington park rd. Jus beside Sweet Secrets. We sat inside this time (last time we had to sit outside for our chocolate fondue cos our furkids were with us)….. the place was quite cosy and comfy….. definately NICE…..

I hesitated between my fav rum and raisin and this really cool hawaii 50….. with tropicana and soursop ice cream and cocktail fruits….. and I chose…..

HAWAII 50….. YEAH…. GREAT CHOICE cos its TOP OF THE WORLD….

Lena had her cravings for chocolate satisfied (I hope) cos she craving for chocolaty chocolate stuff…… she had a chocolate cake that looked absolutely fabulous but I was really too damn full to stuff anymore of that into my tummy so she walloped it up – must be good…

LENA’S CHOCOLATE CAKE…

Jie fu had a chocolate ice cream that looked like 2 balls….. erm I meant female / male balls…. hahahahha

JIE FU’S ICE CREAM….

Jie fu’s birthday is coming – but i wun get him the husky cos junior will kill me as he is already very jealous – to find out more – check out his bloggy www.dinojuniorboy.blogspot.com

If you….

I always advice people dun drink and drive. Now I advice you, dun drink and type. Cos I drank cough mixture and took flu tablets and I was just sitting in front of my lappy and typing. And lotsa rubbish came out. I love and hate the computer.

I love the computer cos I can write stuff and delete them anytime. I hate the computer cos it carries too much of my secrets and I cant take it and burn it away jus like letters.

Well, having drunk and devoured flu tablets + cough medicine this is wat I get –

Quite cool to be able to list out such wonderful things. Cos lotsa things went thru my brain and these tots jus came out automatically. Guess these are my deepest emotions….

If you are upset, I’ll hear your troubles.If you are sad I’ll share your sorrows.If you are hurt I’ll tend to your woundsIf you are unhappy I’ll make you smile.If you are angry (with me), tell me, as I dun mean to anger you.If you are angry (not with me), Don’t vent it on me.If you are smiling, I’ll make you laugh.If you are lonely I’ll keep you company.If you need a friend, I’ll be there for you.If you need encouragement, ill give you a pat on your back.If you need to cry, I’ll lend you my shoulder.If you need an extra vote, I’ll give you my support.If you need my support, I’ll give you a hand.If you need a hand, I’ll throw in my strength.If you need my strength, I’ll give my all.If you need warmth, I’ll give you a hug.If you need love, I’ll give it unconditionally.All by me…. Ah ber…. really high rite…. hahahaha….

Loving Yourself for Relationship Peace of Mind

Loving Yourself for Relationship Peace of Mind

Do you constantly worry about your relationship? Do you doubt your partner’s feelings for you? Are you withholding love because you’re afraid to invest in a relationship you feel may not last? Do you feel suspicious and anxious when your partner fails to meet your demands?

One of the basic tenets of a healthy, loving relationship is “Thou shalt trust thy partner”. Feeling insecure about a relationship is not a good sign; in fact, doubt and jealousy can very often kill a relationship even without a third party.

If you’re feeling difficulty in trusting your partner, ask yourself whether you even trust yourself. Do you believe in your value? Do you respect and love yourself? Insecurity about a relationship and about our partner often stems from our own insecurity about ourselves.

When we don’t love ourselves, we don’t believe that we deserve love. That’s why we doubt our partner’s feelings for us. We think that it’s too good to be true. And so we try to validate our suspicions. Instead of investing love into the relationship, we make demands. We rationalize it by thinking that if our partner truly loves us, they’ll do whatever we want. But that’s not love; that’s slavery.

Try imagining things the other way round. How would you feel if your partner kept asking about your whereabouts, about your friends, and what you’re doing? How would you like it if your partner kept doubting your feelings for them? How would you feel if every little mistake you made them suspicious or angry? Nobody likes someone breathing down their necks, monitoring and questioning their every word or act.

Trust between partners is essential for a happy, healthy, lasting relationship. But first you have to learn to trust yourself. Trust in your own attractiveness and abilities. Trust that you’re good enough to be loved and appreciated and that your partner is not going to run off with some hot hunk or babe the moment you’re not around.

You may not even be physically attractive in the popular sense, but a couple stay together for much much more than just physical attractiveness. You have to develop a healthy sense of self-worth in your own uniqueness. There is only one You, so work on what makes you special. Your family loves you. Your friends love you. Your partner loves you. How could you not love yourself?

Look into the mirror today and embrace yourself. This is the only person you’ll ever be, so enjoy it. When you’re happy with yourself, it shows. Self-love is radiant and attractive. Remember, a happy relationship requires two self-assured, emotionally-independent, mutually-trusting partners.

A Slice of Life is written, produced and presented by Eugene Loh unless otherwise stated. If you wish to share the scripts with others, please credit it to ‘Eugene Loh, A Slice of Life, 938LIVE, a station of MediaCorp Radio’.

If you had money would it bring you happiness?

Adapted from Bar Advice

If you had money would it bring you happiness?

Falling in love is usually rated as the strongest source of positive emotion. People report euphoria, excitement, affection, contentment, laughing. Research shows that the more sex someone has, the happier he or she is(for both men and women).

The stronger ties to friends someone has, the happier he or she is.Research shows again and again that the most important factor in happiness is having good interpersonal relations, with friends, family, and lovers.

At times it can seem paradoxical, because many of us think we can hardly wait to get home and be alone with nothing to do! Most guys think that having more money will make them happier. In fact, many put off meeting women and having a social life to
further their careers. Studies show people making $100,000 dollars are no happier than those making $30,000 dollars.

And studies show that guys making lots of money have no more sex or more sexual partners than guys living on a paycheck week to week, because they typically work longer hours, have less leisure time, and have more stress. I know what you’re saying to yourself, “Give me lots of money and I’ll show you I can be happy”. Well here were not talking about someone striking the lottery or getting a in inheritance. Then again, what makes you think people that get that become happier?

In fact, study after study shows that it’s the people who are alone with nothing to do who are typically the most unhappy. Almost universally, whether extroverted or introverted, people feel happier when they’re with other people. BELONGING is a great
source of pleasure. We want to feel part of a group, whether it be with a lover, a set of friends, or a family. So being social and feeling content and happy go hand in hand. Happy people not only have more social interactions, they’re also of a higher quality.

Quality in relationships is as important as quantity. Research shows that people want confidants, people in whom they can confide, more than just friends with whom they can “hang out”. People want intimacy. It’s the deeper relationships that allow companionship and confiding that makes people happy.

To form a close relationship involves an increasing level of self-disclosure, and without it people will still be lonely even if they have many “contacts”. Studies have found that adults who had plenty of friends and spent a lot of time with them were still lonely because they talked about impersonal topics, such as sports and pop music, rather than about their real concerns.

Have you ever laid down in bed with a partner and just talked about your younger days? What about how your parents treated you? Laughed about how you got punished for stupid stuff you did? Talked to your partner about their concerns in the relationship? Things like this brings happiness from the other because they feel cared for and their partner is communicating with them.

All the scientific research, by a landslide, confirms that developing your social skills and your social relationships, be it work, family of personal, is the most promising path to happiness.

Bar advice.You don’t need lots of money to do any of these things, just a new
understanding of reality and a solid foundation in the school of social interaction.

Cherished or Cheated?

Adapted from Bar Advice

I know that it’s not as often that women cheat as opposed to guys doing it but this one I write is meant for the women to be aware. So often women settle for less. They think that “knights” are found in fairy tales, or they buy into the too-many-women-too-few-men ratio hype. Many don’t even hold guys to chivalrous standards any more, accepting what comes their way is as a reflection of the changing times.

In essence, they’re cheating themselves.

WHY BEING CHERISHED IS IMPORTANT:
Life is indeed bittersweet. There are so many variables that can’t be controlled. The loss of a loved one, illnesses, violent crimes, a son or daughter who chooses the wrong path, the boss from hell, and economic upheaval, to name a few.

The “choice” of a loving, giving mate helps to cushion the blows of life and weather its many storms. It makes people stronger. It nurtures the spirit and helps to fulfill our divine roles. Women are the backbones of society! They give life. They create homes, raise families, run offices and support dreams but you really can’t give from an empty cup!

The bottom line is this. If you’re not being cherished, you’re being cheated. So if you’re in a relationship that’s wreaking havoc with your sense of peace and your self-worth, repeat after me. “I can do better.” Add this mantra to your daily affirmations and move forward! Whoever the guy is or whatever time period you’ve been with him, trust me, you’re heading for disaster.

But first take note of how a “cherished” woman is treated…

1) If a man cherishes you, he won’t compare you to Halle Berry, or Jennifer Lopez, or his mom. He will accept you for your good and bad, and love the things that make you uniquely you.

2) He will be committed to making the relationship work. He will honor your feelings and value your thoughts. He will compromise on issues of importance so that both of your needs are fulfilled.

3) HE will support your dreams and encourage you during times of failure. He’ll take a personal interest in what you do. He doesn’t necessarily have to share your vision, but he’ll cheer you on to victory just the same.

4) When a man cherishes you, you won’t have to track him down or do headstands to get his attention and to get him to spend quality time with you. The desire to be together is mutual, and he’ll move mountains to make it happen.

5) He won’t betray your trust or reveal your secrets. Period!

6) When a man cherishes you, he won’t keep an emotional score card of what he does for you and how often. He considers it a pleasure to do things that brings his woman pleasure.

7) He won’t flee at the first sign of trouble or tragedy. That should also apply to the fact that you screwed up and got pregnant and now a baby is on the way.

If you’re in a relationship in which you are truly “cherished”, most importantly, that you cherish yourself first! Most women let the guy take over so hurt, pain, betrayal, cheating and even abuse becomes accepted by her. If you give in to this from the very start then you’re heading down the road of “doom”. I know some will take back the guy and give him a second chance.Fair enough that your soft heart tells you to do so after all his pleas and if he changes, great. If not then live with it.

Bar advice. Learn to cherish yourself and make him understand it by showing him the way first. You won’t go wrong by example. If he screws up he’ll have nothing to say.

My weekends are my weekdays.

My weekends are really hectic.

Sat I work 12 hours, and I really rush from 1 place to another. When my day ended at 8pm, Kenji arranged for dinner with his friends. So we had dinner at Joo chiat (Bak Kut Teh) and we went down to our usual haunt at Novena (a bar that can “move”) to “watch show”. This show is about Tom (not Jerry ok). Tom the cat mentioned that he liked someone called Ms R (I happen to have a friend with the same name) so Mr Kenji as usual went down to pull the red thread like wat he usually does (he actually is match maker part-time one)…

But ended up, we were all watching feeding show till we were all laughing….. cos very amusing…. and I sort of admired Mr Tom (not Jerry ok)’s guts to open his mouth and eat the food that was fed to him…. cos it was very chilly hot and it was ok, but not fantastic (Sorry mr Tom, dun kill me for criticising the food ok)…. but I am sure the taste in his mouth is different cos it should be sweet and heavenly…..

Mr Tom (not Jerry ok), Pls have confidence in yourself and her. If you dun try, how will you know rite? Jus try, give it your best shot. If fated for you, means its yours, if not, force also no use one….. jus TRY la…..at least you try liao you wun have question marks in you and at least you know, you wun regret anything…. whole TFT support you….

So my sat ended with a laugh…. but I was really really dead beat tired….. didnt sleep well on fri nite cos junior went on strike – he barked and barked and barked…. pls la boy, 7th mth not here yet, dun need practice so hard can or not?

Sun – woke up (in fact, dragged myself up) after like 4hours of sleep cos when I finally crawled into bed on sat nite it was sun morn 3am.

Went about with my classes….. then had to pick up my aunts and ferried them to Paya Lebar to get the roasted peking duck that my mum wanted to eat – its at a shop on the road between the police station and A-Z Building – Ubi dunno which lane or rd or ave)….

So went to get the duck that she wanted – not her special day, but today she’s happy cos her daughter’s (which happens to be me), is cooking…. there were like 20people in the queue. I didnt know if they were queueing for duck rice or chicken rice or watever or anything….. I approached the guy sitting there and asked for 1 duck and asked if I should queue or can I buy it from him – he jus went to get my duck and chopped for me….. so I saved at least 30mins queueing time…. yeah and best part is, the people in the queue WERE BUYING ducks like I did….. they didnt scream…. cos they tot I ordered the duck beforehand and was only collecting it i guess….. hahaahha….

My aunts were amazed at the stunt I pulled. Well….. with a beauty like me and brains in the beauty like me, surely NO PROBLEM one…

So THEY requested to get herbal chicken from siglap. Ok, so there we went….. but the stall no longer sells that already……. so we went back to cook…..but before dinner, we had fruits 1st…

The fruits were the durians I bought for $1 at Serangoon Nth. On top of the 5 durians I bought, my mum also bought 5 $2 durians from my place…. so we had a durian feast… they nearly didnt wan me to cook dinner….

In the end, I jus cooked la. I cooked spaghetti. Even my dumb dumb fussy brother says its ok…. so it must be either he’s in a good mood or he’s trying to be nice (for once) or he’s MAD. Was too tired to take pics and also not too good with my new pda phone…. so better dun ruin my dinner or my phone…..

Had red wine and sent the 3 ladies back home…. its great to spend time with your family….. im luving it…..but hor….. I got few friends that I have regarded as family already…. so I get the family feeling most of the time…. YEAH… ain’t I lucky? YEAH…

PS: PMS alert off – period came. My biological clock is ticking. I am growing again. My mind matured a little bit more, but I going to get senile soon…. hiak hiak hiak…..

Ah ber is down with flu. I need to get my flu tablets then go into dreamland…… and meet you…. if you have a scary face, pls dun meet me in dreamland cos dun spoil my nice and beautiful sleep ok…. I hope junior gets into my dream, so that I can play with him and STOP HIM FROM BARKING IN REAL LIFE IN THE LATE NITE…..

PS: I am still irritable, I am tired, I need rest, I have a backache, I am old.

LOVE

So excited to receive the same letter from MOE asking for my certs. Seemed like my mum is more excited than me…. this time I swear to prepare it by the earliest time possible and send it to them. And I gonna send in more certs than last time…. yeah….

So ma fan, but bo bian la, jus gotta find the motivation to do it…

Sometimes, things / people that we lose, is not a bad thing. It opens up opportunities which might be better for us. Of cos there are certain reasons why we hold on and couldn’t let go. It could be that moment when you were lowest in your life, it could be you grew up with him, it could be infatuation, it could be anything, except LOVE.

I watched HOUSE, season 1, last episode – 22. I believe his ex-wife is a bitch. Tempting him like tat and knowing that he still loves her yet she toys around his feelings…..

How can you say you love someone, when its not love you feel? Wat is love? Love motivates you to do stuff, love motivates you to show actions to that special one you love them, love doesnt stop you from hurting that person, but love makes you wan to kill yourself when you hurt them, Love is not only a feeling. Feelings are jus illusionary. They cheat you, they blur your vision. Feelings play you out. Feelings makes you lose control of yourself, your senses, your sanity.

So ironic. We think we love someone but its not love at all. Love motivates and cultivates. It never destroys…. SO, I LOVE MYSELF.

I knew I am a genius…

I knew it!!! I have always known I was a genius…. Taken from a siao char bo named Xiao Ming’s bloggy…. heehee…. Pls go and test yourself and see whether you are clever enough to be my friends…. if not clever enough, nvm, I STILL LOVE YOU FRIENDS….. 🙂