Your Relationship is Like a House 291206

To all the couples out there – pls make your relationship work cos you may never find someone so special again. And the fact that both of you are together now is a fact that fate is working and both of you are meant for each other as long as both of you put in effort and things will work…

Your Relationship is Like a House

Building a relationship is like building your dream house. It begins as a stirring of emotion and a grand vision. Then you begin laying the foundation, erecting the beams, placing the bricks, painting the walls, and furnishing the interior. For a few years, your home is a shiny, clean, strong and comfortable abode.

But then, due to neglect and lack of maintenance, the paint starts to peel, the windows begin to crack, and little holes begin to appear in the walls and roof. At its core, you still have a great home in a beautiful setting. But the deterioration in the structure of your house is slowly marring its comfort and beauty. Passers-by can soon see the wear-and-tear of the years and the decline of neglect.

Your relationship, like a house, needs constant care and maintenance. Otherwise, little holes in the nooks and crannies will gradually grow into gaping cavities that may be difficult to repair. Rust will begin to eat into the pipes, causing them to leak, destroying the wood.

The truth is that whether you’re talking about a house or a relationship, if there are any “holes” or flaws in them, they didn’t just show up overnight. They are there because you didn’t notice them and fix them right away before they grew bigger.

Now, you could move to another house but it wouldn’t be long before problems start showing up in your new house if you don’t do a better job of maintaining it. It’s the same with your relationships. So how can you care for and maintain your relationship?

Firstly, you have to give the relationship your attention. Sounds logical, right? But the fact is, many people get into a relationship and then put it on auto-pilot. Then months or years later, they wonder what happened.

If you haven’t planned a date together in a while, take some time right now and plan some type of get-away even if it’s just for an hour at your favourite restaurant or a walk in a park alone together.

Make some time for the two of you to be together and to enjoy each other. Make a plan to talk every day (or at least on a regular basis) about what really matters to the two of you. This can simply mean taking a few moments to tell each other what you appreciate about the other person. Give compliments generously. And don’t let the playfulness and humour out of your relationship.

Also, whenever something comes up between you and your partner, don’t let it linger and become an even bigger issue. Tackle the monsters in the relationship when they’re small and they won’t grow up to be large enough to devour your relationship.

Those We Love the Best 291206

Those We Love the Best

It’s been said that it’s often the ones we love whom we hurt the most. Paradoxical, but plausible, given how easy it is to hurt our loved ones.

We are often gracious, tolerant and accommodating towards casual friends and acquaintances, even people we hardly know. That could be because we want to maintain a positive impression, in view of possible future collaboration or aid. It also could be because we don’t wish to appear boorish, or because we are fearful of negative reactions.

Our loved ones though, are often not so fortunate. Because we are certain of their love for us, we tend to abuse that love and take it for granted.

We may do selfish things that bring them distress or use harsh language when we’re upset because we know that they will probably bear it and forgive us. Or we may not express our love enough or spend little quality time with our loved ones because we assume that they’ll always be there.

But our loved ones feel pain and neglect as keenly as any one of our friends and colleagues. Even more so, since it is someone they love who is dealing out such thoughtless afflictions. And like everyone else, they may not be around for the rest of our lives.

This is a poem written by an unknown author, about the disturbing reality of how we treat the ones we love.

They say the world is round,
Yet I often think it’s square,
So many little hurts we get
From corners here and there;

But there’s one truth in life I’ve found
While journeying East and West,
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.

We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those we love the best.

Bitchology 291206

BITCHOLOGY

When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a bitch.
When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch.
When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a bitch.

Being a bitch means I won’t compromise what’s in my heart.
It means I live my life MY way.
It means I won’t allow anyone to step on me.

When I refuse to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as a bitch.
The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone’s maid, or when I act a little selfish.

It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won’t become anyone else’s idea of what they think I “should” be.
I am outspoken, opinionated and determined.
I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with that!

So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me.
You won’t succeed.
And if that makes me a bitch, so be it.
I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.

B – Babe
I – In
T – Total
C – Control of
H – Herself

B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman

B = Beautiful
I = Individual
T = That
C = Can
H = Handle anything

“If you can’t do something right, get a woman to do it.”

A WOMAN’S (REAL) PRAYER 291206

A WOMAN’S (REAL) PRAYER

Now I lay me
Down to sleep.
I pray the Lord
My shape to keep.
Please no wrinkles
Please no bags
And please lift my butt
Before it sags.
Please no age spots
Please no gray
And as for my belly,
Please take it away.
Please keep me healthy
Please keep me young,A
nd thank you Dear Lord
For all that you’ve done.

Five tips for a woman….
1. It is important that a man helps you around the house and has a job.

2. It is important that a man makes you laugh.

3. It is important to find a man you can count on and doesn’t lie to you.

4. It is important that a man loves you and spoils you.

5. It is important that these four men don’t know each other.

Foot Note:One saggy boob said to the other saggy boob:”If we don’t get some support soon, people will think we’re nuts.”

Yesterday 271206

Yesterday I watched “Curse of the Golden Flower” starring Chow yun fatt and Gong li and Jay Chow and many others….

The movie was good but the ending was a little disappointing cos not really a good ending. But after watching the movie I ended up having nightmare I think….the whole nite I was gong-fu fighting the whole time…..

Last nite was one of the longest dreams I had. I dreamt that I went back to Secondary School and were with my classmates on a educational trip to some volcanic land. We were on a beach and far away there was a volcano in the middle of the sea. The volcano was erupting and its ashes were splurting from the mouth of the volcano and they flew very near to us on the beach. I was in the water with some of my friends – amazingly i saw some of my primary school friends too…..haha….

The next thing I knew, I was at a round white stone table (the ones they had under the void decks) and was looking at a thick textbook – apparently for MATHS…..and there was a teacher who was trying to ask maths questions and we were trying to figure out the answers….but it was a stupid question cos no one seemed to know how to get the correct answer and I have never seen such a thing in my life before so I was a little irritated…..

I think if minus the exams and tests, I dun mind going back to school cos it was fun and at least there was something for me to look forward to everyday….but good times always dun really last and I am determined to make my good times now Last as long as possible……

“The heart that you stole away, can you give it back to me? I have been living a heartless life… I need to be in love again but not with you anymore…. Give me back the root of my life – MY HEART…”

Chrismas is over 271206

Christmas is good except wat happened on christmas day itself.

Christmas is over and the end of 2006 is around the corner. I’m so glad that year 2006 is coming to an end cos this year absolutely sucks and I am looking forward to next year where I know I will survive after the bad things things that happened this year – how bad could next year be and it surely wun be worse than this year!!!!

I got a few christmas prezzies this year and thank you mummy rina who gave me a new wallet which I wuved so much…..it got lots of compartments and places where I can put my stuff and its BLACK…..I jus luv BLACK now…..

Thanks to TFT Patrick and Michelle who specially invited the whole TFT to your new house for celebration of christmas and the TFT members who cooked and chipped in to make this christmas event successful and wonderful….the food was yummy, the presense of TFT really liven up my christmas and the presents were good too…..special thanks to michelle and patrick and alvin and vivian who gave me a HUGE piglet…..no no no no no Junior, THIS PIGLET is MINE…..and by the way, your monkey that nanny gave you – can i have it cos its so cute…..

Thanks to my family who cooked and came over for the christmas party cum birthday party….

Thanks for the presents I received from Lena, Michael and Shuling, and kenji who said he gave himself to me….

And to everyone who made my year 2006 a year which I survived…..heehee

And thanks to my baby junior who gave me lots of barks and kisses and licks and pee and poo and everything that made me smile….wuv you darling baby….my baby boy, my dino junior…

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year….

Merry christmas and a Happy new year 251206

Merry Christmas and a Happy new year to my readers here at Little princess’ blog..

Christmas is a season that is loving, filled with joy and sharing and care and peace……. I am sorry for the stupid things I have done the past years to hurt anyone who might be reading my blog. I jus hope that you will forgive my ignorance and foolishness and stupidity in hurting you….

Wish that your new year 2007 will be filled with wonderful things that you have never experienced before..

Next year will definately be a better year, unless the stars dun shine in my favour, then too bad lor…..

But one thing for sure, this year sucks….

Always think twice, thrice before you do anything 251206

Wish to tell my readers a story.

About 19 years back, there was a foolish young gal who committed many mistakes from a tender age of 7. These mistakes were not due to her ignorance, not due to her not being mature enough to think properly, but due to her being stupid and foolish. And the mistakes were not small mistakes, but big mistakes like stealing, bullying, lying big time….etc, but not too serious in a way that kill people or rob the bankor get into trouble with the law la….

This gal lived in the shadows of her crime for the past 19 years. No matter how many times she turned to God, no matter how many times she tried to be good to lessen her crimes and reduce retribution, it doesn’t make her feel better. I would say she is going to live with every single mistake she has made for her whole life.

And she believes in retribution. She believes that no matter how many good you have done will never lessen a single mistake. The retribution will still find you…..judgement day will still come. Retribution and judgement day may not neccessary be now or in your lifetime….but it will affect your future generations. It could happen now too, except that it could be 10 times ur crime……

The moral of the story: Think twice before you do anything. Cos the consequences may be something you have to live with the whole of your life. And if you finally understand that every mistake you make will hurt someone (could be your parents, your friends, your loved ones, yourself and others…) dun do it. Dun do things that could be bad and could hurt people. Always think twice and thrice if you need, do good dun need think so much, but if you are doing bad things, better think more times cos “WAT GOES ROUND COMES ROUND”. You will eventually get your just desserts. If you have been unfair to others, there will be a time you will be treated unfairly. If you have done many bad things against others, dun be alarmed that one day you will be treated badly or even worse. When tat happens, dun blame others but yourself…..

ALWAYS THINK TWICE, THRICE BEFORE YOU DO IT. Not worth ruining yours, your parents, your loved ones, your friends trust and their lives just of a stupid mistake you make…

Hapiness 191206

Happiness

Happiness is not something that others can take from me. It’s something that I would have to throw away on my own.

There will be times when things don’t turn out the way I want them to. My best friend at work may turn out to be a power-hungry corporate animal who backstabs me at every opportunity. The promotion I worked so hard for may go to someone else. My partner might decide to leave me, a day before we are due to go for a vacation together. I may lose most of my savings in a market crash.

These are things that can happen to the most loving, compassionate, careful and reasonable person. But after the initial pain and shock, the decision whether or not to let myself languish in despair is entirely up to me. I can allow misfortune to form the bulk of my life, or I can choose to leave what’s past in the past, and move on.

I can also choose to be an optimal thinker, that is, enhance and elevate my experience of the world in my mind, so that my experience of every day can be a wonderful one.

This involves cultivating a deeper appreciation of things. Even the simplest and most mundane.

French novelist Marcel Proust wrote that “the real voyage of discovery consists of not seeking new landscapes, but having new eyes.”

Yes, we all know a leaf is a leaf is a leaf. We could write a sonnet about a leaf and it would still be just a leaf. But then our experience of it would be dramatically different. We would see what others cannot. We would savour keenly what others only catch a hint of. We would sense the beauty of life which others have neglected in their constant disregard and contempt.

Yes, we can change our experience of life by changing our perspective.

181206 PARTIES

We shall skip sunday ok cos it wasn’t a good day as I worked 12 hours and I got freaked out cos fred (my work partner) had a fall rite before my eyes and I got a shock in my whole life…..

Missed having lunch with my aunts and family on sunday….we used to go shopping and makaning almost every weekend last time….called my aunt on her hp but not turned on….meant she was not at her new place la…..

Let’s talk about today….

Today is the start of my christmas celebrations….steamboat dinner with some SAVH staff and kenji is invited cos he’s my bf ma…..and we have new blood at today’s dinner too…kerin and Jayce should be coming too….

But I’ll see them later ard 7plus…..cos Ah ber jie need to work till 7pm….and my partner not in town so bo bian i got to handle myself…..but i’ll make sure I take lots of photos to post here…..

I have always loved christmas. To me christmas is a season of love and joy and giving and sharing….Every christmas, I used to go to church and listened to the same old story of Jesus but I never get tired or bored listening to them again and again…..My mum would also buy me new pyjamas and I would wear them to sleep and wake up on christmas on a different happy note…

Last christmas we had an addition to the family – Dino Junior….24th I’ll celebrate our 1yr anniversary of meeting……Junior baby, mummy wuv you….

Christmas is a time to celebrate and be close to the people who mean the most to you. My most memorable christmas (besides last year when i had Dino Junior and Dino Senior) was in year 2000 where 2 pairs of best friends had their christmas dinner at a small cosy restaurant named Jack’s Place at Ang Mo Kio. These 2 pairs of best friends ended up marrying each other and became 2 pairs of Mr and Mrs Foo. Although my pair of Mr and Mrs Foo ended recently, my most sincere wishes go out to the other pair of Mr and Mrs Foo….wish both of you remain happy and blissful in your new marriage and have many children to come…since both of you have overcomed most odds, work together to form a lasting union and be happy always….

And to the people who love me……thank you for loving me even when I am not lovable at times….thank you for being saints to be able to love the devil in me…..You know I love you peepz too…..

And this year my christmas is going to be the most memorable one so far i’m sure…..cos I’ll be spending the whole christmas with the friends and the people I enjoy and love to be with…..TFT CEO Patrick, TFT Human Resource Director Michelle, TFT Chairman Alvin Tan, TFT Secretary Vivian Tan, TFT F&B Director Jerry, TFT Entertainment director Alvin Chia, TFT R&D Director Ms Shuling, TFT Technical Support Director Michael, , TFT Communications Director Jimmy, TFT Creations Director Forest, TFT Technical Director Ivan, TFT Agricultural Director Kenji, Lena, Kerin, Trish, Jasmine, Jayce, Rina and family like my parents, my aunts and my SON DINO JUNIOR…if i miss out any dun blame me hor…i’m getting abit senile already…

PARTY STARTS TONITE……all the way to BOXING DAY…..hahahahahahahaahahahahahahahahaahahah

Then it will be Year end party again…..this year i’ll have foam party in my room…..foaming at the mouth ok cos party too much…..heehee…..

Next year is definately going to be a better year….