Jerry BD 201006

Heehee. Sorry for so long I didnt post. Been busy and tired. Well, I know its a long time since the picture was taken, but the food is still there….

At Jln Besar, jus opposite Sim Lim Tower there is a Kopi shop selling “Zhi Char” (Cooked food). Famous for Chao Ta BeeHoon as advertised earlier. 2weeks ago we went there for dinner and patrick ordered new dishes to try.

Pork. Pork. Pork. Pork and PORK for Kenji dear…..
Small pot Spinach….very yummy. The gravy also very nice….
Doufu….very nice….must try…….sorry this is half-eaten….cos so good i forgot to take photo…

And the TFT activities followed by Jerry’s birthday celebration on 201006 at 2 places. We went Colonial Bar to have some drinks and finger-food, then to Handle Bar for dinner. I happened to know the boss of Handle Bar for quite a while already…..lucky she’s still there…admire her cos she smaller size than me yet rides a class 2 Harley…..

The food at Handle Bar…..we had sausages, Pork Ribs, Fish and Chips, CHicken Wings (My fav), beer-butt chicken and many many drinks….

Directions to Colonial Bar: Take Portsdown rd, go in by whitechurch rd. Its at No 1.

Directions to Handle Bar: Alexandra Rd, Opposite some office buildings…..

The food we had at colonial Bar…

Fish and Chips.

Chicken Hot Wings…

Sausages….

Beer Butt Chicken…

And the whole TFT was there to celebrate Jerry’s BD with him, even though Patrick and Michelle had to travel to KL to attend a wedding dinner the next day. They showed up and left around midniite to start their nite journey to KL. Around midnite, we headed for Sentosa with Vodka and Chivas and mixers……

And Ivan was very sporting….he represented the whole group in drinking with the BD boy. ANd the BD boy didnt get carried home….amazing….Cos I ALMOST had to be carried home on my BD…..heehee….

Birthday Boy Jerry


Jerry and our TFT representative, Mr Ivan….in a drinking challenge…


On your marks, get set, DRINK….

Extra large beer…

Ah Ber Jie DRINKING…

Non-alcoholic Beer…

Margaritas….

Jerry and his BD cake….bought specially by Ah Ber Jie….

Birthday Cake…

The birthday Boy in the sportlight….

Happily cutting his cake….


As the saying goes….anywhere with a monkey is not a safe place to hide….my monkey tail came out…..I want to sabo BD boy with this cream….

And Yes, I did it…..he was too stunned to react….hiak hiak hiak….


Palawan beach…..


Our little drinks gathering at the beach….

Adjusting Your Attitude 311006

Adjusting Your Attitude
It’s all about attitude, isn’t it? Change your attitude and you can change your life. Change your attitude and you can change the world. Change your attitude and you can be successful and happy?

Well? yes! But attitude can be everything and nothing. Some people think that having a positive attitude means the inability to accept just how miserable this world is. Some people think it’s all about laughing everything off. Some even think it’s juvenile.

Well, attitude is much more than simply seeing things in a positive light. That’s how people typically begin to migrate from pessimism to optimism, but that’s just the start. A positive attitude is not something you get from simply putting on a new pair of glasses. It requires constant attention, diligence and discipline.

Do you think that the motivational gurus and venerated religious leaders of this world never falter? Like us, they are human after all, and like us, they are touched by moments of doubt, sadness and envy. Considerably less, of course, but that’s because they’ve learnt how to consistently adjust their attitude towards their faith. And they can often do it so quickly, that to us, they appear positive and motivated all the time.

Here are some ways you can learn to hone the speed at which you adjust your attitude towards the positive.

Firstly, learn to let go of negative thoughts and emotions as quickly as you can. Remember that emotions like anger and envy destroy only yourself and the people you care about. They only need to get a hold on you for a short while for you to wreck an entire life. So learn to catch these emotions and release them.

Maintain relationships with people who share a similar attitude towards positivity. This sounds easier in theory actually. Some negative people can be really enjoyable to be around. Pessimistic people are not necessarily pallid hypochondriacs who keep to themselves. They can be disarmingly friendly and sociable. But take a deeper look at the themes they usually like to bring up during conversations and you’ll realise that they’re usually idle gossip, griping sessions coloured with plenty of humour, or irresponsible desires that lead to pointless ventures.

And input positive material. Certainly the occasional Korean romantic tragedy or slasher flick is harmless, but the balance should be tilted towards information that broadens your mind, enhances your knowledge, and lifts your spirits. You can get this from an endless array of books, movies, music, magazines, newspapers, and so on. This type of data increases your feeling of self-worth and has many more practical and beneficial applications.

Positive Triggers for Your Relationship 311006

Positive Triggers for Your Relationship

Have you noticed how certain words or actions by your partner automatically set off negative emotions in you?

For instance, every time she talks bad about your Mom, each time he leaves his dirty clothes lying around, whenever she gives you an ultimatum, or every time he insists on his chosen route and refuses to try yours.

These negative relationship triggers can take many forms but their effect on you is fairly typical – you feel a surge of resentment, you start raising your voice, you begin to pick a fight, or you stomp off.

The easiest way to wreck a relationship is to breed more of such negative triggers. And the best way to maintain a relationship is to create more positive triggers.

Negative triggers in a relationship can be quite regular because like most actions or behaviour, they can become habitual. For example, your partner frequently works late and fails to contribute his share of the housework. So on a typical day, you come home from work and nurse your anger for hours as you prepare dinner, clean up the house, pick up the kids, and so on. When he finally gets home, you rebuke him for being late, and make him feel guilty for not doing enough to help you or for the family. Guess how he will feel the next time he approaches the home late?

If too many triggers activate negative responses from you too regularly over time, your partner will naturally feel less and less positively about you. This is how relationships atrophy over time. These negative triggers keep chewing up the relationship until few positive triggers remain to strengthen the union.

But what if you could create more positive relationship triggers? Or modify your responses to negative triggers?

Let’s say your partner has a tendency to give ultimatums or threats (empty or otherwise) – for example, “the next time you leave your dirty laundry lying around, I’ll just throw it away!” or “if you don’t do this for me, fine! I’ll ask someone else!”

Wah, that really gets your goat, right? You feel like shouting back, right? Well, don’t. I know it sounds impossible, or that you’re condoning bad behaviour, but responding negatively just feeds the negative energy. Instead, try a positive trigger – smile, hold your partner’s hand, touch her hair, or do something terribly romantic, something you know usually encourages a good response from your partner. Then, explain coolly your difficulties and how the negative trigger makes you feel. You’ll notice a softening in your partner’s stance.

Cultivate more positive triggers to maintain a good relationship.

Teen’s tongue piercing causes ‘suicide disease’ 221006

Quoted from MSN, © 2006 The Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.

Teen’s tongue piercing causes ‘suicide disease’
Severely painful nerve disorder the latest on list of complications

CHICAGO – The teenager said the stabbing pains in her face felt like electrical shocks that lasted 10 to 30 seconds and struck 20 to 30 times a day.

Her doctors diagnosed trigeminal neuralgia, a nerve disorder sometimes called “suicide disease” because of the excruciating and dispiriting pain it causes.

Doctors tried painkillers, then stronger medication, but in the end, a cure proved more simple: The young woman removed the metal stud from her pierced tongue.

Two days later her pain vanished

The account in Wednesday’s Journal of the American Medical Association is the latest documentation of complications, some life-threatening, linked to tongue piercing.

Other problems include tetanus, heart infections, brain abscess, chipped teeth and receding gums. One woman developed so much scar tissue that it resembled what she called a “second tongue.”

In the newly reported case, the young Italian woman’s mouth jewelry apparently irritated a nerve running along the jaw under her tongue. That nerve is connected to the trigeminal nerve, one of the largest in the head.

“There are people who have been dropped to their knees” by trigeminal neuralgia, said Alana Greca, a registered nurse and director of patient support for the Trigeminal Neuralgia Association. “That’s how intense and how horrendous the pain can be.”

The teenager is lucky her pain disappeared, Greca said.

“Certainly, this was an isolated case, an extremely rare complication of this kind of piercing,” said Dr. Marcelo Galarza, a neurosurgeon at Villa Maria Cecilia Hospital in Ravenna, Italy, who reported the case to the journal.

The tongue is “a particularly dangerous place to pierce” because it is rich in blood vessels that can spread infection to major organs and because it is near important nerves and the upper airway, he said.

Jeanne Fritch, owner of Personal Art, a piercing and tattooing studio in Lake Station, Ind., said she has not heard of a similar case in her 21 years in business.

Fritch recommended people interested in tongue piercing see only professional, experienced piercers and use only “implant grade” metal jewelry. Good mouth hygiene while the tongue heals also is important, Fritch said.

Stefania Fraccalvieri, the patient in the report, is now 21 and a student in Rome. Her advice to people considering tongue piercing: “Don’t do that. My experience was so bad. I was so sick and now I feel much better.”

© 2006 The Associated Press. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed.

Matchmaking 211006

Announcement…… Announcement…… Announcement…….

Matchmaking for my son Dino Junior….. Requirements: Chihuahua. Female. Must be shorter than Junior. Must be a puppy so that can love can be nurtured. Cannot be white (dun wan my grandsons to look like a cow). Must be a nice little baby gal…..

Anyone who knows of any baby gal that fits the description pls let me know. She must pass the expectations of her mother-in-law (which happens to be ME) first. Heehee….

I JUST LOVE CHIHUAHUAS. Wat will her name be? Wawa? Ah Hua (NOPE, that sounded like me)? Jewel? Juice….heehee

Now rina is saying that Junior might be a gay. Cos when he sits down with his baba edmund and his uncle jakes, his kuku bird will come out. And he dun seem interested in Coco and brandy. And he likes piglet more (piglet’s a boy, by the way). He also likes pingu and pooh bear (AND THEY ARE BOTH BOYS). So rina says that is proof that my SON Dino Junior IS GAY.

Hmmm. I’m getting confused. Should I get another son or a daughter. Rina says I should jus get a soft toy piggy for Junior. Hmmm.

A molest case 201006

Ok, I’m supposed to be working now but I’ll jus take a break by telling you a real life molest case between 2 GUYS.

This is real and I nearly had an accident while listening to it….

I called this property agent to find out more on his property for my tenant. He was quite crude and asked me my tenant name and details. I told him the details but I refused to give him the tenant’s name cos of certain reasons I scared he may undercut me and take my tenant away.

So he said since I refuse to give him my tenant name he will not let me see the unit and he will not wan to work with me. Fine. So I asked my partner (a guy) to call him because it was quite a good unit, unfortunately guarded by a stupid agent.

In the end, viewing was done and the unit was almost secured. Just a $50 difference in rental pricing. So my partner spent almost half a day talking to the agent, who came to meet my partner in t-shirts and shorts…..and they just discussed.

I dunno how the discussion went from the unit to……That agent told my partner he had very nice shoulders, very broad and strong shoulders. And the agent said he good in massage and he jus gave my partner a massage. And then he told my partner he got chest hair and asked my partner whether he has chest hair or not. And asked my partner to show him his chest. And MY GONG GONG PARTNER really unbuttoned 1 button to show the stupid agent.

And the agent said he liked dealing with my partner.

Mind you, my partner is married with a 6years old son ok…..my partner is in his forties and quite chubby…..so became a “gay” and kena molested for 1 stupid deal worth $1850. Do you think worth it?

I heard it, then I laughed till I nearly crashed my car ok…..cos my partner said this deal got his sweat on it…..lucky no blood…..hahahahahahahahahahahahaha……

When I told this story to rina she also raised her eyebrows……kenji lost his appetite for supper…..And I skipped dinner altogether….so disgusting rite…..

Now my partner is going to meet the agent to sign the documents, he wants me to come along. I refused to……cos i know he’ll handle it just fine…..heehee……if i go the deal may just fall apart……cos HE LIKES GUYS only…heehee

I need your support 191006

I need your support.

A couple of my friends namely Lena and her sister Jasmine are setting up their new online shop (getting more popular these days). Their shop name is Glamour Queenies. You can reach them at http://www.glamourqueenies.blogspot.com/.

You can find accessories such as bracelets and necklaces and belts. All Hand-made. They have various designs from simple to intricate and vintage designs. Designs from all over the world. You see models wearing them, you see school gals wearing them. It simply fits all types of gals who want to look good. The materials they use are high-class materials such as satin, durable material such as cotton, sexy material such as lace and other good materials which are undergoing quality assessment now.

You will never find a same design anywhere cos they are specially designed and hand-made. Prices are going reasonably cheap (prices still negotiable) and HURRY cos many people are grabbing the wonderful pieces…..dun miss….

As a customer you will get FREE local postage, FREE custom-made designs, FREE service charge, FREE dedicated service, FREE confidence when you wear the precious pieces……SO WHY WAIT???? Call them now…..

http://www.glamourqueenies.blogspot.com/

Pieces are going FAST……HURRY……GRAB NOW OR IT WILL BE TOO LATE…..Be the 1st and one and only to hold on to limited designs…..1 piece per design…..Of cos in sisterhood I understand sometimes you need 2 or more pieces the same, can be arranged….not a problem….
Hurry… The beautiful necklaces, bracelets and belts are calling out to you NOW……

http://www.glamourqueenies.blogspot.com/

For Ms R 171006

How can 2 best friends turn against each other and become strangers, even enemies? I am baffled by this ques posed to me by Ms R. Ms R I also dunno how to answer you. I went thru this phase few years back lor. Maybe you can tell her this:

Maybe she didnt treasure you. Maybe you took her for granted. Maybe she cares and really treasure you but she couldnt show it to you the right way. Maybe due to certain desires both of you forgot the presence of each other. Maybe you are not her best friend at all.

So of cos it hurts when a friendship breaks up. And if because of pride both parties refuse to go back to each other, then you can see that pride is more important to her or to you than each other. Or because of “face” issue, both of you think that the 1st one to go back and talk about it will “lose” so both of you jus stayed away. Well, since face and pride more important wat else can I say?

You are thinking now that she hates you so you are staying away. But are you really sure she hates you? Sometimes in anger people say and do things that they really dun mean it. But the other party has to evaluate the love she has vs the things said and done. Sometimes it really helps if you apologise 1st. Cos if you really treasure her, saying sorry means nothing to you cos she means more to you than anything. Unless you tell me she’s not worth it la. Then stop whining over her la. Best friends are rare, but it is even rarer to nurture a normal friend into your best friend. If she’s not worth it then dun bother to do anything la.

Some people think the best strategy is to stay away and watch. Some think they should jus wait for the other party to say sorry or drop hints that they still wan to get back together. But wat if BOTH of you are waiting for each other…….then sorry lor….wait till the next life time lor….

Certain people walked in and out of my life. They leave memories that make me smile, they leave scars that make me cry too. I am still me, still the same old me, the same ****** you used to call. Maybe you didnt treasure me then, maybe I took you for granted then, but I always know a theory – better a friend then an enemy. So if you need me, if you still treasure me, if you think I am worth putting down your pride and “face” for, I am still always here and I’m waiting……heehee… I am saying this very clearly…..I dun need to win, I dun need you to lose, I jus need to start all over again and build up everything we lost due to our foolishness. I am making the 1st move, will you take the next step?

So Ms R, hope you regain your friendship with your best friend and see you at Devils Bar again sometimes…..

Junior is sick 171006

Yesterday was not a very good day.

Firstly I cut my hand while cutting the watermelon (which got mummy really worried cos she saw the knife go thru my finger) and while I was pressing on the wound, kenji dear sms me to tell me his work also not going smoothly.

Then at nite, junior fell sick, which got me really so worried.

Junior was fine the whole day, only around 11.30pm he started to vomit. He vomitted twice then he started whining in pain. You can tell he’s not whining for attention. He jus whined in pain. And he couldn’t sit properly. He couldn’t lie down properly. He walked funny too.

And he jus kept whining. I got so worried so I called daddy dino who flew down and sent us to the hospital.

The vet checked junior and said that he had a tummy discomfort and there seemed to be so much “air” in his tummy. The vet demonstrated it by drumming on junior’s tummy and it really sounded like a drum lor. The vet decided to give junior something like yakult – where it contained some healthy bacteria to fight the bad bacteria in his tummy – junior liked it and licked it up quite quickly. But junior didnt take it too nicely with the injection though.

I dun understand why the stupid jab must hurt so much. Junior cried when the thick and long needle poked him and of cos his mummy heartache la. He ended up having a sore bum (where the themormeter was put in to measure his temperature) and a sore thigh where the doctor gave him his injection. Poor baby. He was in so much pain…..

The vet gave me a lecture on wat kind of food I should feed him. I listened but as his mummy, I think I know how to take care of my son. He was doing ok in my care and jus cos he’s a living thing and we all go thru phases of sickness, health, birth and death. So its just part and parcel of life that things are happening now….jus that it scared the shit out of me.

The vet suggested that if I dun feel good I can leave him overnight for observation. I hesitated. Because guh guh boy went in and never came back. I am so afraid its going to happen to me again. By the way, junior was examined on the same table that guh guh boy died on. I was quite reluctant to put junior on that same table cos it reminded me of guh guh boy and it sort of made my heart go sour for a while with this memory.

I was thinking since they are just going to lock him up and watch him, might as well I bring junior back home and watch him myself.

But it wasn’t the best choice, cos I ended up staying up most of the nite to watch him.

Daddy sent us back around 12plus in the morn and junior was prancing up and down in discomfort the whole nite. He looked better in the hospital but when he came back he was still whining in pain. He still couldn’t sit or lie down properly. When he tried to lie down he whined in pain. Broke my heart.

I watched junior till 2plus when I decided to call the hospital cos i couldnt take it watching junior behaving like tat. He was so tired his eyes were so red but he couldnt rest. He was obviously in stress and I know animals in stress can die.

The nurse told me to monitor him again cos he should be better after the jab jus now. But 2.3oam, I called the hospital again cos junior was obviously not improving. She told me to give him the white medicine for the “wind” in his tummy. After giving it to him, I watched him till 3plus when I tot he farted abit, then he was able to lie down for about 10seconds. He had to change positions every 10seconds.

I drifted off to sleep when he stopped whining for a while. But I woke up at 4am to see that he was still trying to find a comfortable spot to lie down. He was still whining abit. I was really tempted to bring him to the hospital again cos he was in so much discomfort. So I stayed up and and rubbed his tummy and kissed him and just watched him. I gave him his medicine ard 4plus and I stayed up to watch over him. The whole nite he was just digging at the blanket, at the mattress and trying to find a comfortable spot to lie down. Poor baby junior didnt sleep a wink the whole nite.

In the morn he was quite exhausted. But he was also feeling better already. He tried to lie down on my arm and he felt asleep finally. We slept together from 6plus to 10am and he continued sleeping while I worked in my room….. even when I went out at 12plus he was still sleeping. I gave him a bit of nice food and he walloped it up.

Junior also slept throughout the morning till 3plus when I came back home and we slept together till like 6plus. He’s fine. He stopped whining but his tummy still uncomfortable cos he was trying to stretch it and get rid of the gas inside it.

And he started his barking again, so it goes to show he is normal again….but he’s listless and still a bit grumpy….but he will be fine…..cos he’s a strong little boy….my baby boy….but you scared your mummy till I nearly shit in my pants…..Love you dino junior and I love you too my darling kenji dear…..thanks for being there for your son and your son’s mummy.

Philosophy AGAIN sori 161006

Suddenly I have many questions in my mind. All thanks to Ms R who is heart-broken at the moment. I dun wan to mention names. But PLEASE wake up. This is the “dunno-how-many-times” liao…. You know who you are cos you just spoke to me.

To the happy people out there (like me who is blissfully attached at the moment) and to the couples who found their soul-mates…..treasure them. Cos if they are able to make your life sparkle with happy tears from laughter, keep them by your side because you must mean a lot to them for them to try so hard to make you laugh.

To the heart-broken people, you may think life is unfair. Indeed life is unfair. But when God takes away someone, it doesn’t mean He wants to hurt you, it doesn’t mean He wants to be in pain. It only means that God is going to give you someone better. I’m sure the people who went into another relationship after a failed one can give me a loud “Amen” to that. But you must still treasure them. Not taken for granted. God gives you something, maybe like a 2nd chance, its not for you to take for granted. Its for you to further improve on what you were not able to fulfill in your previous task. And do this current one better than you did the 1st.

An article from June’s issue of “Cleo Magazine”:

Don’t hold on to the past:
There’s nothing wrong with being sentimental, but only if you pick out the items that truly represent the highlights of your life. Store the good stuff in a memory box that you can dip into anytime you feel like going down memory lane. Say goodbye to everything else. Don’t fret – when it comes to memories, we are constantly making new ones.

I like the last sentence. Cos it is very positive. I happen to have such a box with me. In fact, it grew from a small shoebox to a large plastic container now, since the 26 years of my life. In it, it contained certain highlights in my life like my old blue Malaysia passport, my primary school report book and sentimental items given to me by some people I loved in the past. I also have items that make me smile when I look at them and even letters that make me cry. But all these are stored away. Because indeed, we are constantly making new memories.

Why spend time crying over things you know you can never change? Why spend time hurting when you know you cannot turn back time? I know its human nature. I know its hurts. I know its so difficult to forget. I know that you love them dearly. But certain things can never be what you dreamt, no matter how many dreams you try to make.

I’m sorry for the long lecture. I get affected sometimes when my friends are experiencing some problems. That is one of my problems…I get too involved, too easily….and I end up getting hurt too…heehee….So I must learn how to mind my own biz.

I got several suggestions yesterday as to what career is suitable for me. Mr T said that I should be a teacher cos I have a way with children and I can handle their parents. No la. I was a teacher once. I am so scared I am not able to nurture them properly and I rather leave the job to the more experienced teachers to impart proper knowledge to the children. Not that I cannot do it. It stresses me out when I question whether I taught them enough, or more than what they need to know or not. I am always worried that I missed out certain important life skills or knowledge that SHOULD be imparted to these young minds. Now you know why I quit being a teacher rite, teacher Jesslyn and Cadrina. I am stressing myself out with such thoughts.

Ask me to play with children of cos I can la. In fact I am an expert at that.

Mr T also said I should be a policewoman since I am so idealistic. How to when I am so soft-hearted. I think if someone who I have never talked to in the past few years suddenly need my help I also will help lor.

Most important in life, be yourself. And make sure people around you accept and know you as you are. Like me now, I am happy cos I am myself and I am surrounded by people who know my true self and not mind it….and in fact, appreciate me as I am….thanks to all my friends who are able to do so in regards to me…..

Some people spend time “testing” the people around them. Some people waste their time suspecting their friends. Some people planned their way around certain people who love you and are your friends. Why ah? Cos you got hurt before so you must learn to protect yourself issit?

Actually its not about protection of yourself. Its actually something wrong with your eyes and heart. Whether someone is true to you, you can see it, you can feel it. If you get the signal wrongly (maybe you think he loves you but he doesn’t), its a problem with your eyes. And if you love him so much but he doesn’t really love you, its a problem with your heart cos you loved too much to feel that the signal from him is different.

And even though he’s gone you are still holding on…..actually its not a problem. Its just a habit. A habit that you cultivated to move yourself away from the initial hurt and pain from the breakup. A habit that makes you feel better in a sadistic way where the more you hurt, the more you feel inclined to hold on. ITS JUST A HABIT. ITS NOT TRUE LOVE HOLDING YOU ON. Some feel unfair about the whole thing, so they hold on, hoping for a chance to make things fair again – how to? Its gonna be fair only if he returns?

Are you sure its not going to hurt anymore if he comes back? Why dun you think that if he returns he might be bringing you more hurt than before? If things would really get better when he’s around, why did he leave at all?????? Ponder….Think….

Rina was telling me about some web thingy by some red indian chief.

Humankind has not woven the web of life.
We are but one thread within it
Watever we do to the web
We do to ourselves
All things are bound together
All things connect.

Chief Seattle.

I think things happen for a reason. Why some people get so blissful, why some people need to go thru trials in life before getting their rewards. Why some people have a silver spoon in their mouths. And why are you hurting. There’s always a reason. The reason you are hurting is NOT WHAT THEY DID TO YOU. They have done nothing to that extent to reach into your heart to break it. Everything beautiful was pictured by you – they never painted any picture in your mind. You are hurting because of your refusal to let go.