Do true friends exist? 010806

Ms Lena Tan left a message on my tagboard saying tat true friends dun exist. Wat do you people out there think?

Personally I think tat true friends DO NOT exist. Wait….let me explain…. Cos it would be an insult to classify these “people” as “true friends” when you know tat they should be classified as “brothers”, as “sisters”, as “family”.

Whenever I face an aquaintance, I use my heart and my mind. I use my heart because of honesty, of sincerity. I use my mind because I filter out the true things and beware of the false ones.

Whenever I face a friend, I use my heart. I use my heart to face my friend honestly and sincerely and with love. Seriously to the extent I am a fool. Cos I dun think with my mind….cos I trust my “friends” with my heart.

Best friends.
Best friends are the best in loving you, knowing you, accepting you as you are, giving you the best of wat they can offer…..and they are also capable to be the ones who hurt you the best, who turn wat they know about you against you and giving you the best grief you can ever have in your life.

But…..

I am damn lucky. Damn lucky because I was a best friend once. And I had best friends before. I was lucky because I was shown tat best friends can give the best hurt. And now I was shown tat my best friend can be categorised as FAMILY because we communicate with love. So I can happily say now tat the ones who didnt know how to appreciate me were fools because I have so many sisters, so many people who are family to me who proved tat me and my family are not fools because we believed in each other and we are happy together. There are many fools in the world. But I rather be a fool in using love and sincerity towards people than a FOOL who spend their time destructively.

And I thank God because He has shown me things tat I could never understand. I used to ask so many “why”s…..because I am hurting. But there’s always a reason for everything. And the reason for my hurt is to make me see things clearer. And the end result is to have better things in life cos I learnt to put the past behind.

Everyone has their fair share of mistakes in life. I am not a saint. I did terrible things too. I said terrible words too. But I know I did wrong and I go all out to make up for my deeds. For the people who had been hurt by me intentionally when you did not do anything wrong to me…..I apologised. Although i know certain people have forgiven me, but I still remember my deeds so as to serve as a reminder for me not to do it again. And I still wan to tell these people “SORRY”.

And for the people who hurt me and made me turn my hurt into strength to hurt you back, I dun regret it. Cos you deserve it.

And for the people who do wrong and dun repent on it….and still think you are rite….there’s something called retribution lor.

But I am happy now. And tat is most important. You can take away my everything. But you cannot take away wat’s inside me……AND TAT’S WHERE YOU LOSE. Cos you are empty inside you.

So Ms Lena Tan, I read your blog and see tat you say ur friends are seasonal friends. Even if you really have seasonal friends, dun be worried cos there are ALWAYS 4 seasons in a year and these 4 seasons ALWAYS still come. Even in singapore where got no snow…..still got rainy seasons one….Even in Alghanistan where got no rain sometimes….but still majority got sunny seasons……the important thing is do you know how to appreciate the seasons as they come? Or do you grumble when you see rain?

Actually I appreciate all the bad things tat happened cos after these things happen, I only get stronger and bonds only get thicker. And I am thankful for the chance to get to know people who improved my quality of life since I knew them, like Kenji dear’s Band of Brothers. These brothers display a sense of loyalty, a very strong bond between them and nothing can break them up because they are so true to each other. I look up to every one of these brothers….cos I learnt alot from them.

Give and take – tat’s the thing between ur family, ur sisters, ur brothers.

Diet vs exercise for losing weight 300706

With excess weight a greater problem than ever, the question of whether changing eating habits or exercise is more likely to produce weight loss is vital.

A new study confirms the overall research findings that dietary change, specifically eating less fat, produces more weight loss than changes in exercise. But it also shows that changes in one kind of behavior may help promote changes in the other, especially among women.

Many studies have compared weight loss resulting from changing diet versus increasing activity. Most often, weight loss during programs focused on dietary change produced two to three times greater weight loss than programs focused on exercise.

However, it’s long-term results that matter for our health. One analysis of many such studies showed that by one year after the end of these programs, there was no significant difference in the weight status of participants. This raises the question of whether people can maintain changes in exercise more easily than changes in eating habits. The answer, of course, almost surely depends on individual preferences as well as how unpleasant or enjoyable the attempted diet or exercise program was.

Cutting calories doesn’t have to mean dieting
We become overweight when we consume more calories in food and drink than we burn up. To lose weight, we need to shift that balance and burn up more than we consume. We can accomplish that by consuming fewer calories, burning more, or both. Cutting calories doesn’t necessarily have to mean going on a “diet.” It can just mean avoiding or limiting one or more foods high in calories from fat (such as high-fat meat, cheese, or snack foods, or too much added fat), lots of sugar (like sweets or sweetened drinks), or alcohol. Cutting calories can also be accomplished by reducing our portion sizes, or by eating smaller portions of those high-calorie foods and filling up on larger portions of low-calorie vegetables and fruits.

Objective analysis shows that cuts in calorie consumption add up faster than increases in exercise. Studies show that a combination of smaller portions and changes in what we eat can easily add up to reduce calorie consumption by 500 daily, whereas burning an extra 500 calories daily can be a daunting target.

Exercise plus lower calories for women
In this new study conducted at the University of Minnesota, moderate or substantial drops in dietary fat were linked to weight loss in overweight and obese men and women, regardless of how much they changed physical activity. On average, these successful program participants decreased the number of high-fat foods they ate by five to ten servings a week.

In women, even substantial increases in exercise were not enough to produce weight loss if they did not decrease fat consumption. Men, however, were able to lose weight through increased exercise alone. This might be because the men were able to burn more calories in exercise than women, or might reflect either some metabolic difference or a problem in the study’s ability to detect changes accurately.

For men, the effects of exercise and dietary fat seemed to have independent effects on the amount of weight lost. For women, although exercise alone was not a successful weight loss strategy, at each level of dietary fat reduction those who increased exercise − moderately or substantially − lost more weight than those who changed activity less.

Whether exercise changes metabolism to allow more successful weight loss, or whether its stress-reduction benefits allow more consistent progress in changing eating habits, this and other studies show that both increasing exercise and decreasing calorie consumption clearly seems the best weight-loss choice for everyone.

11 ways to forget her….300706

Specially dedicated to GLENN…

She ended it – and he feels like his future is in shambles. He’s panicking and wants to beg for her back, and will do anything to make things right. But no matter how hard he tries, he can’t get back to that little spot of sunlight where he felt so comfortable and safe.

He must forget her – not as easy as it sounds – but with this blueprint, he’ll soon be picking up the pieces of his shattered heart – and manhood – in no time.

1. Take her off that pedestal
Don’t idolize her and build her up into something great. She is nothing of the sort. So don’t gaze lovingly at pictures of her. Don’t jump to answer her e-mail or phone calls. And definitely don’t go out of your way for her. She no longer deserves preferential treatment.

2. Get closure…
It’s essential to definitively end any hopes of reconciliation between the two of you. And if you can’t get that into your head, she owes you the courtesy of making it crystal clear. She should tell you: ‘I never loved you. I don’t love you now. We’ll never get back together.’ After some prodding, she’ll probably do it, just to get rid of you. It provides what therapists call ‘closure.’ And you can begin to heal.

3. …then don’t contact her
After the relationship reaches finality, you have to break off contact or you will go mad. Don’t beg or cry. Don’t drunk-dial. Don’t write her e-mail. Don’t send packages or CDs. Don’t dedicate a song to her on the radio. Geddit? She will find you if she wants to. And even if you can talk your way back into her arms, it’s only a temporary reprieve. She already knows you want her back, and she doesn’t care. Take that as a sign.

4. Get negative feelings out on paper
Write her a letter pouring out your negative and weepy feelings, then disassociate them from yourself. Throw the letter away or burn it. But definitely don’t send it to her. You will only regret it. She will show her friends and her new boyfriend. And they will all share a good laugh.

5. Avoid her friends and any places she goes to
Don’t venture into her territory. You won’t be welcome. Find new places to hang out for the first few months and make new friends, if necessary. If any of your friends insist on maintaining contact with her, you may have to shut them out, too – at least temporarily. After some time has passed, you should go back to living normally, and that means hanging out at these places and reconnecting with your mutual friends.

6. Throw away anything that reminds you of her
You don’t have to burn it all, but definitely get pictures, gifts, clothing, letters, and e-mail out of your living area, or at least out of your line of vision. If that means giving away roughly half of your wardrobe to get rid of the memory of her, so be it. As a rule of thumb, if the object makes you think of her, discard it. This can also save your sanity.

7. Don’t try to get your stuff back
Unless it’s a diamond ring or something that’s one-of-a-kind, you’re better off not contacting her to get it back. DVDs, clothes, your extra toothbrush… just let ‘em go. They’re only possessions. Is it really worth the pain of being in her presence just to reclaim a pair of boxer shorts? Don’t exchange your dignity for menial belongings.

8. Spend time with your friends
Let your pals give you a wake up call on how your ex wasn’t that perfect to begin with, and that there are more fish in the sea. A little male camaraderie can go a long way towards getting your head straight. We’ve all been detonated by a woman before and most of us will likely get detonated again.

9. Exercise your newfound freedom
Freedom is always intoxicating. There’s a world of activities you can partake in that you were never able to enjoy because your ‘other half’ didn’t approve. So indulge. Travel. Build a model ship. Go hiking. Play video games on your computer. Watch TV all weekend. Do anything you want. Why not start boxing? Ideally, you want to find an activity that allows you to release your anger and alleviate stress.

10. Remember the bad times
If you feel nostalgic, then think of all the times she was a cow to you. That should do it. Remember the time she made you wait by the dressing room as she endlessly tried on clothing? Or the time she reminded you not too drink too much in front of your mates? Nobody wants that back.

11. Sleep with another girl, stat
Nothing reminds you that you are a man quite like having a new woman in your bed. So take solace in the arms of another. Call it a rebound if you wish. Plenty of heartbroken men go this route and for a very good reason – it makes you feel better, even if it’s only temporary. So go out there and feel better about yourself!

Bonus: Seduce somebody she’s jealous of Remember the hair stylist or the hot barmaid your ex scolded you for looking at? Well, now’s your chance to make a move that will pay off in more ways than just sex. Just think, if your ex finds out you’ve been fishing in familiar waters, it will drive her to the point of hysteria. This can be quite gratifying.
Getting the woman of your past out of your present is a mental and emotional challenge of the first order. However the tried and true guidelines above should have your heart mended in no time.

PS: Dunno if it works for gals as well hor…..try and let me know ok?? Heehee….

A day at the Zoo 300706

Today I went to the Zoo with my aunties….heehee….picked them up at 8am although I slept only ard 4am….

Some pics to share….
Ah Ber kena scared by a tiger…

Zebras having breakfast….

2 rhinos fighting…

A Tiger named Winnie…

White Tiger…

Lady’s Fingers

Bottle Gourds

Ah ber…

Pics AGAIN 290706

This morn I went to attend Rina’s brother wedding at ROM….heehee….I wore a punjabi suit….so nice….this is the 2nd time I ‘m wearing it and i really look good in it……

Bride and Groom

The same solemniser at Natasha’s wedding…heehee…coincidentally, he’s overseeing this wedding too…

My babies all went along too….except the blackest of them all….Dino Junior baby….

Me and Rina in our punjabi suits…..so nice we look….

And i miss playing pool at home……Mummy when can we move the pool table into action again?????

We used to play like this….

Pics to share 290706

Some nice pics to share..

Winnie’s 24th BD…..270706

Winnie’s BD cake

Winnie cutting her cake

Winnie STILL cutting her cake.

A nite out with Rina…..Ballet under the stars….

Rina and me during the performance…

This is the aftermath where we were high on red wine….heehee

I know you are reading my blog 280706

I know you are reading my blog.

If you are concern about me, thank you, but I dun need your concern cos I am living my own life now. In the past, I used to look out for you, i protected you, I loved you. You were my everything. Now all these has changed. You have your own life too….jus dun bother to come read my blog or spread rumours about me. Cos i wun talk about your past – they will die with me. Dun worry tat i will go round telling people about you. If you have nothing for people to gossip about, why you worry?

If you are kapo about my life…..jus come and ask me and I will tell you straight, dunno need to instigate people to come spying on me or spy on me yourself. Anyway I ask you dun bother to read my blog or spread rumours about me, cos you have your own life and i lead my own life too. But if you dun understand simple english or you jus too kapo….go ahead and do so…..cos rumours are rumours.

At least my friends around me and the guy I am with now sees my true self and loves me and accepts me and appreciates me as I am…..unlike you…..wearing a mask, hiding yourself…..tell you till the day you die you will not die in peace too….cos you carrying too many burdens…..you will never to true to the people you love and the people who love you. A FAKE.

I am always thinking of forgiving you, for all the untrue things you said about me. About all the daggers you stabbed me behind my back. I live my life with my head up, And I forgive you too….jus tat I cannot forget so as to remind me the pain you caused me….dun be mistaken…..not to take revenge on you…but to remind me to be careful not to allow you to hurt me AGAIN.

A nite of fun280706

Today I went with Rina to watch “Ballet Under The Stars” at Fort Canning. Rina packed dinner for me….she bought potato chips and made nice ribena…..I bought red wine….

We took a mrt there and walked up the hill. Thank God tat it stopped raining when we got there….

We laid the mat and sat down for our picnic……the show started at 1930 and the performers were quite good….their ballet skills are really amazing….Rina even brought her lamp to add on to the effect in the evening…..so nice…..

We drank the red wine….quite good…when the last drop was gone both of us were a little high….we laid down on our backs and counted the stars in the sky….heehee…..

And we talked and talked and talked……very nice…..

I really enjoyed the nite out. We were jus ourselves and had nice fun becoming ourselves……

After tat I met Kenji and we went for some romanticing…..dun need to listen to details hor….and I had some more beer…..cos the more i romantic with him…..the more Gungho I became and I started to drink more and more…..heehee…..so nice being with my darling Kenji.

I am sorry I loved you 280706

I am feeling sorry for myself. Cos I jus realised that this evening….someone whom I used to love so much. Someone whom I used to protect so much. Someone who was so important in my heart Someone who was so important to me……could be so vicious.

Although I didnt hear the rumours with my own ears. But from the actions and reactions I get from the people involved with you…..I can guess as much that words came from your mouth. I am so hurt to learn that when I loved you so much and was contemplating to contact you again and get back with you…….I realised this vicious truth about you. You never changed at all. You didnt know how wrong you were.

I am sick and tired of giving you excuses. I am sick and tired of forcing myself to give you up. It hurt me so much each time I tell myself to stop loving you, to stop waiting, to give up hope cos we can never be.

I also dunno why i loved you so much. Maybe you casted a spell on me. Maybe I am really a fool. I protected your integrity when I didnt speak of your past. But instead of appreciating and be grateful for tat….you told untrue tales about me. You insulted my integrity.

I know its wrong to love you. But love can never be wrong cos I didnt force you to love me. I am only loving you on my part, and it has taken a toil on me. I am jus simply sorry tat I loved you in the past.

It will never happen again. Cos you have hurt me so much. I wished you would come back to me. And I wished tat things were not so complicated…..but they are. And you never loved me at all. But its ok. I’m hurting but things will fine. After all I have loved you for so many years on my own…..I have been carrying this hurt with me for so long…..hurting a bit more will not kill me….in fact it will only make me stronger…..its ok…..cos i promise you it will not happen again. No matter how much i loved you in the past…..it will not happen again..

To Mr Kenji Lim’s DEAREST COLLEAGUE 280706

One of Kenji’s colleagues complained that in the beginning when I started out with Kenji, Kenji neglected her. And the best part is she didnt complain to anyone except her other colleagues. And she told them that I was controlling him and preventing him from being close with other colleagues.

I didnt lor. I swear I didnt stop him. We were together YES. But we were settling some other issues that I dun wan to mention. So I am sorry we neglected you…..BUT YOU DESERVE IT. For being so calculative towards someone you regard close to you….and for poisoning other colleagues minds about me. I am f***ing mad about this thing when I heard about it today.

You mean when Kenji go with his gf trying to build a relationship means neglect you ah. You think you are the only one in his life issit? You think you have the f***ing rite to say things about me when you dunno me well? Wat you mean when you say I not worthy of him. Wat you mean when you say I am toying his feelings and not serious with him. Wat you mean when you say I went with him jus for his status and money??????

F*** u.