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I went back to sg nth ave 1 to collect come stuff on sat. Wai had already packed some of my stuff into 3 luggage bags. He also took down our marriage potrait already. The room is still the same, except photos of me have been kept in the drawers and the photos that used to sit above the television have been replaced by his favourite sport car models.

After collecting my stuff I rushed to meet kenji to attend my manager’s dad’s funeral wake at Beo Crescent. Then while he went home to rest i went shopping alone at Orchard. Quite happy cos i bought a few bags and a pair of shoes…..then I went home to pack part of my stuff….till it was time to go to Shundy’s BD party.

The mango tango ice cream cake was fabulous. The buffet food was wonderful….guess 21st BD parties should be like tat…..everything the best…..reminds me of my 21st BD party. I booked my own chalet at Coasta sands Chalet L1 – rite in front of the swimming pool. That was the 1st time I introduced Wai to my friends. That was also the last time he mixed around with my friends together with me. He was about to propose to me….he already gave me the ring. I kept the ring together with some personal, unforgettable stuff in my cupboard in my room….I’m not going to put that ring on anymore, since december last year…..it was off my finger till now and its gonna stay this way forever.

After Shundy’s BD party, I sent kenji back to get his stuff then we drove back to my place to pick up my stuff and my SON, then we went to bradel cos the next morn we arranged with Lena to go pet movers….wrong move….Junior was so excited tat he was out and he didn’t sleep the whole nite….not a wink at all….his poor mummy had to watch him occasionally during the nite till bout 8am when the 3 auto alarm clocks (Jared, Damon and Ryan) woke up and played with him….then we moved to jakey’s room (with a door) and he finally slept for a while. Daddy didn’t sleep well too cos Junior was licking his face occasionally. But Power…..we overslept…..we were supposed to meet Lena at 11am at pet movers but I WOKE UP AT 11AM….Power rite….lucky she clever didn’t go down yet….

Then i woke up and got ready and i wanted to bring the children along too…so we got dressed and went out about 12.30….the best part was…..lena waited for our call till she ALSO FELL ASLEEP…..die la….but lucky she woke up in time to join us….heehee…..sorry ah, my son’s godma…..junior disturbed us the whole nite….didn’t sleep well….

Then we met up at Pet movers….bought Junior and his 2 gfs lunch and let them run around…..Coco got attacked by another very very fierce JRT. So scary…..normally she will fight back or bite….but she really was terrified by tat stupid JRT who only know how to chase others and pick a fight. Brandy, as usual….behaves so sneaky…..very very arrogant gal….give her food, she dun wan, give her drink, she dun wan…..very “dao” (arrogant) hor…..

We proceeded to Eastpoint cos me and mummy wan buy stationery….but Lena and Mr Jie Fu didn’t join us…..cos Mr Jie Fu’s car got some problems……so…….lena’s gonna curse and swear again for getting that CAR…..hahahahaha.

We walked around popular, had burger king and rushed back to my place to house junior, then rushed to eunos to pick kenji’s mum and go to Old airport rd – Natasha and Xiao Fei Xia (kenji’s sis and bro-in-law)’s place to COOK MEE SIAM for them…..In the end, they passed my mee siam…they say NICE>>>>>>>>Lena, you eat my mee siam before rite….can pass off as outside cook one rite….heeeheee……mummy also say my mee siam nice……EVERYONE SAY MY MEE SIAM NICE…..hAHHAHAHAHAHAAHA (so proud)

Anyone wan try…..book apt…next time i cook for you to eat…..Next week if i have the time I’m making Kaya…..Aka Datang…..wait ok…

Five ways to transform your résumé from ho-hum to wow 300406

Five ways to transform your résumé from ho-hum to wow

Here are five resume makeover tips that might put you back on the right path.

1. Think about your target audience – A resume is nothing more anadvertisement. What are you trying to sell? Yourself. The first thingadvertising executives do when selling a new product is identify the target audience. When revamping your resume, this should also be your first step. Make sure each resume you send is customized to the position and the company’s needs. If you are seeking a marketing position and the company has indicated it wants to hire someone with market research experience, make sure you highlight that. Make it easy for the company.

2. Make sure you have the right type of resume – There are two types of resumes: functional and chronological. While most people are familiar with chronological resumes, which include qualifications listed by past employer in reverse chronological order, you may want to consider a functional resume instead. Chronological resumes are best suited for those with a good amount of experience or individuals on a standard career path. Functional resumes highlight your abilities rather than your work history and work well for those who are re-entering the workforce, transitioning to a new field, or havefrequently changed jobs.

In a functional resume, the main headlines you use are skills and strengths. For example, section headlines for someone looking to break into sales might be “Sales Experience,” “Customer Service Skills,” and “Managerial Skills.”Under each headline, list specific accomplishments and experience from past jobs. Employment history is included in a functional resume, but at the bottom of the page and is limited to company names, job titles and employment dates.

3. Include an objective or skills summary – Like any other sales pitch, your resume needs to gain the reader’s attention right away. One way to do this is by telling them who you are right away through an objective or skills summary section. This lets the reader know what you bring to the table, right up front. Consider the following statements:

Objective: To provide a targeted, creative and unique marketing vision in order to increase sales and brand awareness in major consumer markets.

Skills Summary: Highly experienced, talented and dependable sales manager with more than 10 years experience in the retail marketplace. Skilled in all aspects of retail management, including customer service, inventory control,employee management and accounting.

Both of these introductory statements set the reader up for what is to come next. Another idea to consider is following up your introduction statement with a bulleted list of skills or core competencies. Think about the skills you have gained from your experience and list those at the top of your resume.

4. Focus on accomplishments, rather than job duties – It is important to use your resume to demonstrate how you can benefit the company and illustrate how you have benefited other organizations or solved problems in the past. Include a brief one or two sentence description of your job responsibilities, but then focus on specific accomplishments. Instead of saying “wrote press releases andcompany materials,” tout your value by telling the reader that you “developed media materials that resulted in nationwide media coverage.”

5. Add some hard data – Anyone can say that they were successful at a job, but not everyone has the numbers to back up their claims. Including evidence – numbers, dollar amounts, or other hard data – will make you stand out from the crowd. Take a look at the following two resume statements:

A. Developed plan for new warehousing system that saved the company time and money.

B. Developed and implemented warehousing system that saved company more than $500,000.

Option A provides an accomplishment, but option B will gain more attention from a reader, particularly a hiring manager at a company that is interested in cutting costs.

The bottom line is that with a little work and attention, your resume makeover can help you go from just another candidate to the candidate at the top of the pack!

4 Annoying Things Couples Do 300406

4 Annoying Things Couples Do

Let me begin by saying that this is by no means an attack on couples. It is merely a series of observations on attached happiness – and the incredibly annoying tendencies it can inspire in just about everyone. Having been one half of a happy couple once or twice, it is only now, from my single viewpoint, that I can appreciate how truly obnoxious I must have been to other people.When you´re in love, it´s as if the rest of the world ceases to exist, as if no one matters but you and your significant other. But in reality, everyone is still there, standing next to you in a line or going out to dinner. And not only are they there – they´re annoyed.

PDA in all the Wrong Places
The happier you are in your relationship, the more likely it is that you´ll find it difficult to keep your hands off your guy or girl. Public displays of affection – also known as PDA – can be sweet and endearing. They can make single people yearn for a new lover and they can inspire unhappy couples to start over or try again.

But in the wrong place or at the wrong time, they are as aggravating as the sound of fingernails on a chalkboard – and not just to singles, but to absolutely everyone.

There are times when public displays of affection just aren´t necessary. These include in line at the grocery store or bank, on a train or airplane, or in any kind of waiting room. The reason? The people around you are in close proximity with little or no chance of escape. And the endearing cuteness of your groping and fondling dwindles after approximately ten seconds.

Couples should also make the effort to remain PG in public settings. Under no circumstances is it necessary to massage your girlfriend´s butt while in line at the drugstore. And at the movies, hold off on the groping until you’re inside the darkened theatre – we know you´re doing it, but we don´t have to see it. There´s a fine line between sweet and sickening – it´s one that is crossed far too often.

Criticizing Singles
Many of you are probably familiar with this scenario: You have a group of friends with whom you embrace your single status. You go out to bars, play the field, have fun, and bask in the glow of being excitingly unattached. You shake your heads together as you pity the couples around you who are confined to the monotony and responsibility of being ?committed?. Then one day, someone breaks the news that she´s in a relationship – and what´s more, she´s so relieved and grateful that she doesn´t have to endure being single any longer.

There´s no need to criticize the single life just because you´ve crossed over to the other side. Besides alienating all of your closest friends – which you´ll likely do – there´s a good chance you´ll be single again at some point, unless you end up spending eternity with your new love. So choose your words wisely – it´s likely that one day, the shoe will be on the other foot.

He´s Not Your Child
Both men and women are guilty of the incredibly annoying tendency to baby their significant other. It may be cute in private, but in public it makes others want to smack the both of you.

Assuming that each half of a couple is a self-sufficient adult, he or she probably doesn´t need advice on things like health, personal hygiene, or what flavor of ice cream to have. And those around you certainly don´t want to listen to the lectures, criticisms and recommendations. If she managed to survive without you, chances are she´s capable of doing one or two things on her own.

Anyone who´s ever worked in the service industry – be it food service, retail or entertainment – knows how annoying these couples can be. There´s the do you really think you should be eating that? look a girlfriend gives her boyfriend when he asks for butter on his popcorn. Then there´s the you´re going to spend a hundred dollars on a shirt when you didn´t pay the phone bill last month? exclamation shrieked by boyfriends in clothing stores around the world.

Whatever the circumstance, the people waiting to take your order or ring in your purchase are begging you – leave the parenting at home. When you´re in public, just make up your own mind.

There is Life Outside Your (Love) Life
In the early stages of romance, it´s understandable that virtually all you think about is your significant other. In an important meeting or over lunch with a friend, your mind will undoubtedly drift off to memories of the romantic date you had the day before or lusty fantasies of your next encounter. But at the very least, try to pretend you still care about what´s going on in the world around you – because no one else cares about your new love nearly as much as you do.

The last time I was head over heels, a friend of mine brutally snapped me back to reality with the words ?just because you´re in love with him, doesn´t mean the rest of us are?. In fact, she thought he was a complete jerk and my incessant ranting and raving about how absolutely perfect he was was simply more than she could bear. (Note: It turned out she was right – but that´s beside the point.)

For every relationship, there are observers who can only handle so much. So try to remember that while being in love is great, not everyone around you is feeling quite as giddy as you are.

love can be ugly
The plain and simple truth is that couples don´t intend to do things that irritate everyone around them. But love seems to instigate these annoying habits without us being aware of the ways in which we are changing. It´s only when we see others act the same way that we realize how foolish we´re being – or, if we´re lucky, we have people around us who remind us to cut the crap and save the drama for when our significant other is our only audience.

Sometimes human are really human. We love someone….

Sometimes human are really human. We love someone. We are happy, on cloud 9 with this someone. Then when we lose this someone, we are very sad. Sad to the extent tat we lose ourselves. We try ways and means to find out more about the someone. How he’s been, How he’s doing, Is he with someone else, Who is tat someone, is she pretty, What have they been doing….etc….

Then when we find out, we get sadder. Cos we ask why not us with tat someone, why her? And we get depressed when we start to think of LAST TIME. Last time when things seemed so beautiful, seemed never ending, seemed that he was YOURS. But now….no more….

So we cry. So we go drink ourselves silly. So we cry again. We cry somemore. Then we tell ourselves that we must not be so silly. We must wake up and move on. But we didn’t really let go. Although physically the someone not with us but we forgot that they are staying rite in ur heart. Jus tat we cannot hold them physically – there’s a good reason why – cos if we HOLD them, WE WILL NEVER LET GO….rite gals….heehee.

Then a rebound guy comes along….and we enjoy his company….and we make stupid plans that we dun even know its us making it….cos we are hurt, we are vulnerable, we easily fall. Its ok.

Darling Kenji, dun read this blog liao then “hu si luan xiang” (anyhow think) ok? Although we face many ups and downs in our relationship and things are not too smooth for us, but I love you. Jus dun take me for granted ok. Treat me nicely ok? LOVE me. Tat’s all I need. Remember you “zui” (court) me one hor…..dun tell me you regret hor….I got many guys queueing one hor……

Sigh, everytime I see people’s blog and see people’s profiles and photos, I feel slightly depressed. Even though I long time didn’t online (although only less than 1 week) but i read liao I still depressed…..sian…..never mind….lucky I found a good job….I think I will focus on my job….and focus on people who love me…..tat’s all I need….I dun need to focus on things that dun need me.

Shit you. The devil. God is great. God reigns…..Shit you the devil. Satan. Shit you, stay away from me.

Today is thursday 270406

So fast…tomorrow is friday…heehee….gonna get my car liao….can bring junior to take a ride in my new car liao….

Wa. This week pass too fast. Yesterday I went to Day Bed Bar to have dinner and chill out. Nice place…..its a pub but the seats are mostly Day Beds…the kind where its big and comfy….I fell asleep after dinner….so nice….

Been rather tired these few days cos been running around….sorry so long didn’t update….will try to do so more often…

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I brought Junior to the vet on thu and he cost me $192 for a blood test and tablets for heartworm and ticks lotion….poor mummy gonna eat bread jus becos of you smelly boy. Then came fri where i went to the prada sales with lena. I bought a wallet tat was 70% off…very good bargain…but the time we queued was more than the time we actually looked around…. Lena went to do make over after the shopping.

On sat, junior gave me a big fright – the biggest fright out of my whole life till now…He had a bad fall. I let him out becos I wanted to bring him out. Then while i was carrying him, I stooped down to clean his pee pee and he tried to be superman by flying out of my arms. He landed on the ground with a loud thud. And the next reaction from him haunts me till now.

He opened his mouth so wide and started gasping in pain, like cannot breathe like that……really scared the shit out of me. I quickly rubbed his chin, rubbed his throat and his belly and his body….then slowly he started to be quiet. I cradled him in my arms till he seemed normal…..really scared the shot out of me. I tot he either dislocated his jaw or he had a concussion on his brain…..I never felt so scared in my life leh….even when I watch ghost movies also didn’t feel so scared.

Sunday I woke up at 6am to go kenji’s place. His company has a malaysia trip to JB for seafood. I reached his place at 7.30 and as usual, he was still sleeping…..he finally woke up at 8plus and we left the house at 8.30 to pick his mum and colleague at corporation drive…..then we went to the meeting place at 10am……had breakfast and finally reached the seafood village at 12plus… We had crabs, 2 fishes, abalone, prawns, vegetables and mee hoon and rice….very very nice….next time we arrange together to go eat seafood ok…heehee….

Hurray….sunday was my last day at work…..then Monday i start new job…(eh….ok la.hurray a bit). Today I started my new job. Its at Everwide. Located at Ubi. Today I learnt about most of the products they carry there….did a quotation and was quite well done…..went around in the black nissan march that is going to be MY CAR….so happy..I’m going to take the car on friday.

The existing gal is eaving and that is HER CAR…..only 14mths old..but ITS MY CAR….soon…. So excited…. I’m bit tired today but I’m happy. Quite like the environment at Everwide….the people there are quite nice..but today got a bit of hoo-ha…..the existing admin gal going back KL to study….so got a new gal in – but she on urgent leave and the existing gal got stressed up and cried and left half day…..then the existing sales gal also leaving end of the week…..and my manager’s dad got health prob, going to mati soon….so quite complicated…..

Tired, but quite happy la…

Ah ber princess….

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I’m sorry to release my emotions 220406

Hey folks, Sorry to release my pent-up emotions in my last 2 blog entries. You know I value certain things and I get really emotional when I’m in my memory lane….I surely feel better after letting them out….sorry to make u guys go thru this….heehee….Ah Ber Will Be Back….

There are many things I like in life, but I only truly loved a few 220406

“There are many things I like in life, but I only truly loved a few.”

I truly love you
You are the only one among the few.
You are gone
There goes our bond

I still wish to hold you
Tightly till our fate’s due
I will never let you go
But you left me – what debt did i owe?

Its ok, its alright
I will only scream with all my might
It doesn’t matter the number of times i bang my fist on the walls
If only you would open your doors.

A poem dedicated to my special one.
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I’m a little depressed 210406

I’m indeed a little depressed. 5 years back I had so many dreams. I was about to get married. I wanted to go on to the phase of married life. I wanted to be a mum. I love children. When my 1st Godson Jared came into the world I was so happy. I carried him, I talked to him. I tried to change his diaper. I had a go at feeding him milk.

Our love was the envy of many others. Everyone was saying he was a nice guy, I married good. And I wanted so much to have a baby with him. Every month that we tried for a baby. I held my breath and waited for my period. If it was late I would secretly feel so happy. I even gave up riding my bicycle to work because i was afraid it would affect my chances of being pregnant and losing the baby if i was pregnant. So I walked to sch or took the bus.

Yes he was a decent guy, until he proved himself otherwise. And my dreams were all broken. I am in a complicated stage of my life where I wan to move on but I can’t, due to my status. I cannot have children as much as I wish because I’m stuck, stuck in this complication.

Initially I was very sad. Everyday going to work was a chore for me. It was my greatest nightmare. Cos I had to face my children, whom I wished so much tat they were mine….I see parents picking up their children and I wished so hard I was one. Cos I was stuck at work. I cannot go and check if he was still sending the gal back. I cannot check if they were up to any monkey business. Every little thing he does makes my mind wonder. I lost trust TOTALLY.

When the clock strikes 5pm, I wonder, I wonder if he was sending the gal back there and then. I wonder why he can be so early as to pick me up at 5.30pm. Why was he early – did he send her back early or did her take half a day off to have a rendevous with her? Why was he late – did he stay back in the office and had a fling with her before fetching his wife?

I became sneaky – i checked his phone, i checked his sms, i checked his emails, i checked his pockets, i checked his wallet, i checked his briefcase. I hate myself for doing these but I jus can’t stop myself.

When things broke up, friends started to ask me issit my problem? Issit cos i worked irregular hours as a property agent that caused him to stray. Issit cos I didn’t satisfy him enough for him to stray.

Maybe. I dunno.

I see my friends around me getting married and getting pregnant. I was on the fast track where I had my dreams and my plans. But now my friends have already moved on, while i’m still stuck here dreaming. I’m so tired. Tired of this situation.

And somethings are not easily chucked away. These people, these memories, were once part of my life. Now that they have gone, its so difficult to drop them in a corner or tuck them in some drawer then say move on and really move on.

How to move on when they were once part of your life? How to move on when i have not really let go? Things move so fast. I wish to go up to them and hold on to them and tell them dun go. But I can’t continue in my dream. I got to move on.

I still feel hurt inside me. After all that I have gone thru, I think i deserve better. But thru these I know I emerged stronger and i learnt more things on the lessons of life.

I read on Jesslyn’s blog “People who always appears to be strong, happy and cheerful are always people who do not want others to know they are sad, moody, depress or unhappy… They are those people who are most hurt in life then those who show their emotions and feelings to others… After reflecting, actually find this quite true… dun you think so??”

She is a positive gal, yet this statement came from her. I was quite taken aback cos I didn’t expect this from her. I guess she must have her fair share of hurts and unhappiness that led to her statement.

I told her that these people only break when they cannot hold their sorrow, hurt and grief in them and start to confide in others….another way to let it all out is to get drunk…..heehee.

For so many years I have been keeping all the hurt, the sorrow, the unhappiness in my heart. Its breaking under the burden….so pls forgive me if i jus let it out once in a while.

And Kerin mei, I’m not happy at all, in fact I was never happy. So i belong to the category above. And I know I’m not alone. Friends out there: I’m not too accustomed to sharing my problems but I dun mind sharing your problems with me if you need me….u know the hotline rite….24hours….